One thing I learned from Julie is learning how to ask.
I usually over think when I’m about to ask for an extra ketchup or a raise. It doesn’t matter which. I just… over think.
I got from her that it’s just a freaking question and people can just say no if they don’t want to.
Don’t make it such a big deal.
Making it a big deal: This is another thing I need to address. Since I spend a lot of energy before asking, I get offended by those who say no to me. Rejection is something I dread hearing. This one of the reasons why I’m afraid to ask in the first place.
Rejection is fine, don’t make it such a big deal. You can just go ask somebody else. Life doesn’t end on rejection. If you can’t go straight ahead, go find a workaround.
If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
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