When I hear the word unfair, it usually comes from the perspective of the one being taken advantage of.
I didn’t realize that being in an unfair situation has a good side too. We can be unfair by giving more than necessary, by giving benefit of the doubt when it’s not warranted, by being the more loving when it isn’t even reciprocated.
I think this is the unfairness we should strive for. To be on the giving end. To be in a position where we have too much, we absolutely have to give without expecting anything in return.
Life isn’t fair. It’s good that we strive for fairness. It’s even better if we strive for unfairness, but on the giving end.
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